When I was a college undergrad I wanted nothing more than to become a part of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. Unlike a lot of people, I didn’t know any Deltas in my immediate family or even connected to me but I was desperately determined to wear that crimson and cream. Day and night I studied Deltas. I logged on Youtube and watched videos. I went to their campus events and even joined a pageant so I could be around them. I secretly practiced strolling to their songs in the mirror, imagining that I was violently breaking mirrors in a crowd of cheering “girl, you better werk’s.” I didn’t know it then, but this was my first powerful experience with visualization.
We are taught a lot of things that should be simple. One of these is to walk by faith and not by sight. But what good does that do when we doubt the things we are trying to work for?
I want to be very transparent.
I am pushing through a terribly toxic cycle of wishing for my dreams to happen but not following through with the faith part. I’m a dream killer – constantly murdering the dreams that are begging to come into fruition. I know how to get myself worked up in one breath and self-sabotage any chance for real success in the next.
Furthermore, this cycle has high key makes me envious of others who appear to achieve EVERYTHING they strive for.
Why don’t I have that drive?
Why is it SO hard for me to trust God and myself?
Why does giving up and being overwhelmed seem like my normal?
But as soon as I started sinking, I was reminded of Delta and how determined I was to achieve that goal. I was not stopping at anything.
You see faith is not about wishing or even planning. I have wasted so many years writing goals down that I didn’t truly believe in. Creating these lists. Saying “oh, tomorrow I will finally do it.” Nothing good can come from a no-action goal with a big mouth attached to it.
That was me, big mouthing it up.
When I finally received that call that I would be a Delta, I wasn’t surprised. It was something I had prepared every single day for. I had studied the requirements and faithfully done my part to deserve a spot on that line. And while a major part of that was putting in the work, my true victory was because I was able to visualize what I wanted.
Stop killing those secret dreams you know you want to come true.
We (preaching sooo much to myself) need to visualize our goals so often that the universe has no option but to let them come true. That’s the type of faith I want. Faith that truly puts Jesus to the test, allowing him to come through for us in ways we could never fathom.
So because I desperately needed to go deeper in chasing the visions that were put on my heart, I began to educate myself on the power of visualization.
You’ve Got the Goals But Stay Stuck
Your problem may not be that you have the goals. You can write the goals down on that sheet of paper time and time again but if you never see yourself achieving it, you won’t reach them. Many challenges of this could include:
- Lack of Confidence
Did I mention that somehow these are ALL of my challenges, though? I have work to do.
Why Visualization Works
Feeding the brain powerful imagery literally forces it to create what is being imagined.
According to Huffington Post, “When we visualize an act, the brain generates an impulse that tells our neurons to ‘perform’ the movement. This creates a new neural pathway that primes our body to act in a way consistent to what we imagined.”
Can you think of a time that you worried so much about something and it ended up coming true anyway? This is because whether good or bad, you will manifest what you believe.
One of my favorite examples of this is from Jim Carey who used visualization to get him to his goals.
Before the fame, Jim Carey believed in his dreams so much that he wrote himself a $10 million check. Furthermore, on the memo it read “For acting services” with a specific due date.
Now imagine that. He believed so strongly in his dream and himself that he declared it was going to happen. He didn’t know how but he knew that by putting it into the atmosphere, he was allowing the universe to move on his behalf.
Every day he carried that check in his wallet, serving as a constant reminder for the goals he had to reach. And guess what? A day before that due date on his check, he miraculously landed his first major role in Dumb and Dumber…for $10 million.
I know it sounds crazy but it WORKS. I got that Delta position because of my belief and visualization. If your way hasn’t worked up until this point, it may be time to switch it up.
If you’re on board with visualization, try these techniques yourself:
Top Visualization Techniques To Get You Inspired
-Vision/Pinterest Boards: People LOVE a good vision board. But what I have found is that none of these techniques will work if you don’t believe it can happen.
You can put beautiful people on your vision board to represent your future spouse, but if you don’t believe you deserve that then it won’t matter what images you use.
So do some heart work before you start dreaming. Related post [Dealing with Loneliness].
Cutting out words and images to create a vision board is great. I’ve also found that creating a simple Pinterest board will get the job done and give you a lot more options to be creative. See an example below:
And YES I have a wedding Pinterest board. Speaking that thang into existence before I’m old and moldy.
–Take A Faith Step: I want to share two things that I’m declaring will happen in my life.
One is hosting a class or meetup for struggling cool kids like us. The other is driving off in a Mercedes CLA 250. Both have no signs of happening any time soon. Like I mentioned before, I was starting to sink back into negativity and bad self talk.
So I decided to take a visit to a really cool rental space venue that my job previously used for our holiday part.y. I sat across the road, just watching it and imaging what that day would look like. I sat there until I got so excited it almost brought me to tears.
The second thing I did was go to the Mercedes Benz website and customized my Mercedes CLA from scratch. I even plan to take it a step further and visiting the dealership this weekend. (What’s crazy is that after I started visualization this car I started to see them EVERYWHERE as a sort of reminder.)
By being in the presence of things I truly desired in my future, it motivated me to keep going. It stirred up a drive in me that was slowly withering away.
I encourage you to do this too! What one thing can you insert yourself in for a future preview?
For example, if you want to sing, take a tour of a large arena. Make it real.
-A New Attitude: So we started making the dream more vivid by putting ourselves in those shoes. There’s no need to “fake it to make it” because if you already know that the dream is yours you don’t have to pretend. So start acting like it’s coming.
A new attitude is about shifting your mindset from “I’ll do this when THIS happens” to “It’s already mine so I will act accordingly.” Dress like a successful entrepreneur would (whatever that is in your eyes). Live it out, cuh.
-A Day in the Life Worksheet: Sometimes it’s extremely hard to vision anything beyond our reality at the moment. But I got chu as always.
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How to STAY Inspired
So I know you’re asking. “Alaina, this is real cute but how do we stay inspired?”
You first have to revisit these experiences often. Look over your worksheet, visit those future places and constantly remind yourself why you deserve them.
Second, have FUN. We put so much pressure on ourselves. Take a deep breath and just begin to live. You got this. WE got this.
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